Always Taking Clients…

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I received an e-mail today from someone inquiring whether or not I was continuing to take new clients. And the answer is ABSOLUTELY! I hope through this blog I haven’t given the impression that I am no longer practicing because my practice is up and thriving; but like I have said before, my approach is different and unique. I also think that it is vital that each client feel comfortable with the therapist they are working with and that they constantly feel that they are growing, much like a personal trainer. It is my job to challenge and help you grow, and hopefully together we will form a strong bond.

Please contact me through e-mail or by phone if you have any questions or inquiries about my practice. It is truly what I am passionate about and as long as I have free-time, I always have time for a new client!
(317)796-3101
ppa72@aol.com

Suicide Birds and Seahorses…7/28/08

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Hmmmm…where should I start? I guess at the beginning. I’m not even sure I understand the purpose of this, but I know eventually it will find me. Let’s start, Halloween 2007. Unsatisfied, unfulfilled with my life, I sat on the porch in the Smokey Mountains at 2:30 a.m. with a friend, discussing that I was turning 40 in a few years, and that I didn’t feel that I knew what I was supposed to be doing, or better yet, wasn’t doing what I felt I should be doing anymore, but I didn’t even know what that was I guess. My friend, a very wise, yet unfulfilled 59 year old, sat back, stared right into my eyes and said, “Don’t wait until you’re 59 and your husband sits on the couch watching CNN news all day.” It was the scene in ‘Thelma and Louise when Thelma can no longer go back; those words released me. And I could not go back. Within the next few months, I left a seven year relationship, which at times, I am unsure was the correct decision, left a job I had been with for almost 13 years and began writing a book. And then not one book, but two and now three. Oh, and did I mention I’m a recovering alcoholic and addict, and as such I cannot limit myself to any one thing. And then my mother became extremely ill and was in the hospital until May 14th, when she passed away. And driving away from the hospital that night, Bob Dylan singing “Shelter from the Storm” from the speakers of my car, a bird swooped down and dove directly in front of my car. A suicide bird, I thought. But why would they take such a risk? For the excitement? For the test? For the chance maybe they would make it to the other side, and maybe they wouldn’t? Could these small creatures really be that wise? Sage Swallows? And maybe, we were all suicide birds, putting ourselves in risky situations or taking chances, to feel, for one small moment, that we were truly alive. And that’s how it began for me, through all this crap that has happened, although I know it served a purpose, I’ve begun my own nosedive in front of cars on the interstate late at night. It started with living one year dedicated to living freely, taking chances, going places I wanted to go and not being afraid to meet new people. But now I think maybe this is the way it’s supposed to be for me. Maybe I’m not supposed to sit like a bird on a wire, waiting to fly south for the winter. Maybe I’m’ supposed to fly south now. Or tomorrow. Or maybe never. But nothing makes sense and everything makes sense; all at once. Suddenly. And I don’t question anymore. Or at least I try not to. Haha…I’m not that arrogant. And one thing I know is that the magic still exists in me. And that is part of my journey, to forever stay four, wading through the creek behind our house, watching the sunlight hit the moss on the rocks, or seven, my mom allowing me to check out twenty books at the library, or nine, and still now, way down beneath the turquoise waters of St. Barts or off the coast of Tulum, live seahorses who sport bright, red top hats and sing Sinatra’s “Fly Me to the Moon.” At least…at least I hope they do.

Reading back on this entry makes me realize how much I’ve allowed myself to fall back into caring again what people think and that I’ve allowed myself to live under constraint again. Alex teaches me daily to live full and follow through with your dreams…a teacher…ahhh yes, he is indeed! And so I guess I need to remember where I came from and once again, chase after seahorses, because…we’re on borrowed time as it is…

Turning walls into roads…

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Recently, I’ve been allowed the opportunity to try so many new things and meet so many new people that I’ve realized I’ve missed out on this most of my life. I don’t know that I would necessarily term myself a recluse, but I would definitely describe myself as careful. Through the years, I’ve had so many people gossip about me or say things that are rather hurtful that I’ve learned to become somewhat guarded, placing one stone upon another until there has grown a wall between myself and the outside world. Until now. Everything in life is perspective.

Walls not only keep people from hurting you, but they keep you from meeting other people and possibly experiencing their intellect, humor, love and perspective. Yesterday, someone asked me how I had learned to deal with gossip or hurtful statements and I referenced the poet Maya Angelou, who stated that when people talk about you, you aren’t in that. Just because they talk about you doesn’t mean it has anything to do with you. It speaks more of who they are then who you are. She also said to be careful because people will tell you who they really are, so trust what they tell you. And some people won’t come right out and attack you, but take bits of you, little by little. A part of your nose, a slice of your ear, until you’ve been destroyed and didn’t even realize it happened. Therefore, you can’t give negativity power; you must only live your life, enjoy, and remember the things that are really important. The small things. Standing in the sunshine with people you really care about, smiling…

So at this point, I’ve learned to change my perspective on that wall. I’ve turned it sideways and realized that it’s not really a wall at all, but rather a road leading me to some destination way in my future, meeting colorful characters along the way, enjoying truck stops, rest areas and vistas that will enrich my life. How funny things become when you realize how something you’ve seen for so long, can actually be seen another. And because I’m attempting to change this attitude, it doesn’t change overnight, I’ve been allowed to meet new people, experience new things and open myself up to new emotions and feelings.

Because after all, those are the things will remember in the end. I was just sitting outside in front of my condo, thinking that it looked like it might rain tonight. And I remembered my mom standing in the rain, dancing, singing some Bob Dylan song, spinning, spinning, spinning. Completely unguarded, which wasn’t really how she lived. And that is what I remembered. And that’s how it should be. So I think it’s time for me to lay down a few more stones on that road and begin walking…because we’re on borrowed time as it is…

Enhance Your Soul Fool!…10 Books/Movies For Summer

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When I first started this blog, it was intended to be designed to meet the needs of my clients or at least serve as an online therapist. What has resulted is a personal diatribe of my feelings, emotions and beliefs; probably not much unlike my private practice. Needless to say, I’ve gotten more clients and responses than I would have imagined, most focusing on reader’s saying they relate to my authenticity. So, I will continue in the same vain, and just put out there what’s in my head, or at least what has helped me get through life this far. It isn’t much, but it’s enough. I have a wonderful life!

So, in my last blog I commented that I was going to make a list of the ten books/movies you should indulge in this summer to enhance your soul. Here it goes, in no particular order…

10 Books That Will Make Your Summer Amazing!
1. Endless Night…Richard Layman…A terrifying read
2. Summer…Alice Low…Annual Summer Starter!
3. Rule of the Bone…Russell Banks
4. She’s Come Undone…Wally Lamb…Just read it!
5. Ferris Beach…Jill McKorkle…For anyone who has encountered a great friend!
6. Cruddy…Lynda Barry
7. Speed Queen/The Night Country…Stewart O’Nan…Must Reads Anytime!
8. The Sun Also Rises/The Garden of Eden…Ernest Hemingway
9. Help I’m a Prisoner in the Library…Eth Cliffard…Awww being a kid again!
10.Stargirl/Love Stargirl/Eggs…Jerry Spinelli…These are the world’s best unknown books…THE BEST!

10 Movies That Are Great to Watch in the Summer…Because I Said So Dammit!
1. Rear Window
2. Thelma And Louise
3. The Scream series
4. I Know What You Did Last Summer
5. Out of Africa
6. I Know My First Name is Stephen…or any Lifetime Made for TV movie…but this is the best!
7. Wild at Heart or Mulholland Drive…David Lynch is spooky strange in the summer
8. Gypsy 87
9. My Dog Skip
10.And of course…TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD!!!

You know…I get extremely excited talking to people about books and movies…please send me suggestions on movies or books. I will definitely follow up and comment on my findings. But nonetheless…read, watch, enjoy, and enhance your soul before it’s too late…we’re on borrowed time as it is!

Welcome To My Couch…The Journey Begins…

peter-cute3Welcome to my couch! Since you are new, let me introduce myself. My name is Peter Monn and I am a psychotherapist in Indianapolis, Indiana. I have worked in therapeutic environments for fourteen years and have focused much of my attention working with adolescents and addiction. Or more appropriately, teenagers and the poor choices they sometimes make in their lives. Even though I have continued working with adolescents in my private practice, I am working more with women and families and focusing on helping people achieve all of their goals and be as successful as possible. In doing so, it is important to let you in on a little secret. I am extremely direct, painfully vocal and impossibly creative. My attempt is to answer any questions you may pose and let you in on the secrets that have helped my clients and I achieve more success in what most would term my unconventional methods. No question will go unanswered. That is a promise. So please, grab a pillow, and join me as our journey begins…

If you have any questions you are uncomfortable asking on this blog, feel free to email directly at ppa72@aol.com or call me at my office at (317)796-3101.